Zig Zigler said that failure is an event not a person. You may have failed with that rejection but you are not a failure.
There is a post over at Write to Done about rejection letters. The title is awesome “Why rejection letters are great.” Artists generally have such a hate-hate relationship with rejection. Maybe a hate-hate-hate-hate relationship. It’s so easy to make that illogical step that if our play is being rejected, then we are being rejected. Love me! Love my work! I really like the notion of treating failure as an event. All events have an ending, and then you move on to the next one. It’s a nice separation between failure as an act and as a person.
At the beginning of my career I took rejection letters to heart. I had a hate-hate-hate-hate-hate-hate-hate relationship with rejection. It was a personal attack, you see. Why don’t you love me! The years have given me more confidence in my work and that has helped turn that thinking around. So has writing so many rejection letters for Theatrefolk. It’s never a personal attack on the playwright. Never. And quite frankly, it’s never a personal attack on the play either. There are so many reasons why a play gets rejected. Some of those reasons have nothing to do with the quality of the play but whether or not the play could find a place in our catalogue.
When I send out my own stuff these days, rejection letters don’t bother me. I have too much pride for my work to get all tied in knots. Besides, I know it’s not personal. My opinion now is – ‘their loss…..”